Random Connections in Facebook

It wasn’t until last year around this month that I started using Facebook. I was a “late bloomer” so to speak.. I did not like the concept of FB, revealing myself to the world. However, being my first-year anniversary of using it, I have found it to be a great way to keep in touch with people. For me, FB is a pretty private place to me and I avoid adding people out of “just meeting them at a party” or something like that – unless I can see myself connecting with that person in the future again. For a long while, I resisted adding anyone from my work place or any of my external clients to Facebook, because sometimes I post work-related updates on there. However, I decided to change my own policy of that and went ahead with adding them – but with highly restrictive permissions.

There are people whom I work with who I deal more in a “personal” and “friend” basis.. those who I would spend time with outside of the office, there are only a few. Further to that, I’m nuts when it comes to ensuring all the “groups” of people I know are sorted well in categories. I do not use categories just for the fun of going so, but because I’m anal when it comes to applying privacy settings, permissions and rights to Facebook “friends”. I have 10 groups and had more at one point and all of them really do serve specific needs. Perhaps being an I.T. guy, this was one of the first things I set up when I started using Facebook. I religiously classify ANY PERSON I add to Facebook in one or more of these categories and I work through a “compounding permissions of groups” – each group granted either more/less permission to my visibility.

Can you tell I'm anal about my Facebook groups?

On that note, today, an interesting situation happened. Oh… before I continue (I blog like I talk… jumping all over the place)… I actually had 3 topics to write about today and by the time I began typing this, it has now dwindled to one… not because I don’t want to talk about the others, but because I FORGOT.. lol, I’m getting old. Anyways, today I had to go on-site to fix some issues the place was having. I have not done field work for a while as the past 3 years I’ve been working at this organization, I only did field work for 3 months before being promoted to the headquarters managing internal systems. I held that position for 2 years before moving into my current position doing I.T. project management. Anyways, my time out in the field was short and I had only met a handful of people anyways. Out of my naiveness, when today I went to a site to work, and as I walked into the office to report in (we are required to do so for security purposes) and then one of the secretaries gave me a weird look.

I was wondering if I had something on my face, my hair was disheveled (crazy winds today) or why she was giving me a weird look. As I approached her more closely, I realized she was try to take a look at my ID tag (which I have clipped onto my belt since wearing it around my neck tends to drop in between computer fans, LOL). She asked me who I was and to identify the reason why I was there. Since I’m not well-known within the organization due to my lack of time doing field work, it is pretty usual that I had to identify myself (if you’re one of the regular techs and they recognize your face, they’ll just let you through). I work in an environment where security is paramount as we deal with lots of little kids and we all know how common pedophilia is in society nowadays, so it never offends me when someone asks me to state the intention of my visit.

The secretary, being probably suspicious spoke to me in a very abrupt and crude tone. I identified myself, showed my ID and signed myself in. She looked at my name and immediately she began to smile (my immediate thought was to step back 10 feet, lol) at me and began to introduce herself. I clearly had no idea who she was, although she seemed to know me quite well. She started listing off the first names of people who knew me personally and many of my coworkers. As these names were passing through my head, I finally connected them all to one place… FACEBOOK! Finally she said one more person’s name then all the pieces came together. She was like “Ohhh… you’re _____ it is so nice to meet you in person! You know me? I thanked you last time over ______’s Facebook for all the work you did for me!” and then I finally realized who it was (or well, at least her name). We shook hands and all of a sudden, the mood completely changed, as if Facebook had some magical powers.

We had a small chat before proceeding to get some information as to what room number and person I needed to contact. I asked if it was ok if she paged the person for me just to make sure he was there and if she could help me locate the room. She was all cheerful, called the person to verify he was there, gave me directions and even walked me to the door. Is that crazy or what because just a few minutes ago, she was definitely not “very nice” until it dawned upon her that she “knew me” from Facebook. On that note, it is crazy now how we’re so interconnected to people… which can be good and bad.

This is not the first time that I found out I was so “well-known”… I have been to sites before where people somehow know me, but I don’t know them, LOL. I suppose it is very easy for them to know me since I’m the only Asian who works in I.T. (rare eh… you’d think there’d be more of us given our reputation) and probably one of the few Asians who worked in the entire organization. I suppose my name gets out there somehow… I have no idea how. When I inquired, a few people even said, “I heard your good-name through the grapevines and people speak highly of you..” and I’m like WTF… who’s speaking highly of me? LOL. Furthermore, why would any speak highly of me? Most of the time I’m a big asshole wakakakak (Doing a Poh Ching laugh) 😀

When I left the site and was driving home, I kept on wondering how people know me and I don’t know them. I try to be very personal and deal with people directly rather than phone calls, remote access and stuff like that as it helps the customer and I connect on a friendly and in-person basis. Furthermore, I did not know people actually tell others when they meet someone to “speak highly of”… I find myself only telling others when I meet someone who’s a real douche, LOL, maybe I ought to change that, haha. Nevertheless, it was kind of cool to realize that my name was out there and as if I was some kind of celebrity walking in to fix a system. It took me all of 10 minutes to do it and I was a superhero with a cape. I was thanked profusely which in all honesty, made me feel more accomplished than the pay I earned for the day!


Found a video posted by another blogger that amusingly fit into the topic of Facebook – and just in time for V-Day too!

Video found by: Author


And to end the night, something period-related for you guys to read 🙂

About Prexus Swyftwynd

Probably not a good idea for you to know anything about me....

Posted on February 9, 2010, in Personal and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. So you’re famous eh? I wonder what category i’d fall into if I added you up in Facebook. Btw, you gave me an idea. I would also start categorizing my “friends” in FB. You might be hearing updates/queries from me soon, as I am clearly an airhead when it comes to techy stuff.
    I am really on the fence when it comes to FB. There was a time when I really loved it because it made me connect with long lost friends. But sometimes it pisses the hell out of me, I don’t read the news feed anymore. There are some annoying people there. I do tend to hide them from my news feed, esp on a bad day.
    I shall now commence categorizing. Excited. 🙂

  2. Not “famous” – just “well known” at my work place… LOL, given we employ like 8,000 workers, if I’m one of those 8,000 that people just “happen to know” I guess I could say I’m feeling pretty proud, especially because I’m not in a high-ranking position. I’m in a senior role, but not executive.

    I generally don’t tell people where I place them, haha…. prevents them from knowing too much 😛 My tagline on Facebook is “The less you know about me, the better.” LOL, makes sense ya?

    You should really start cateogorizing if you do a lot of “random adds”… I don’t and that’s why I didn’t specifically have a group for people I “know” but “don’t know”… get what I mean? haha. I wanted to start twittering but I’m making some research and analysis first, I don’t like jumping into things. Twittering is nice so that people who DO care what I’m doing can follow and those who don’t can just F-off, lol. I used to update FB status like it was meant to be updated, but then people would say I updated too much. I gave them shit for that, it didn’t make them happy 😛

    I really connected with a lot of long-lost friends when I started using FB and still do almost weekly “discover” someone I lost touch with. I have my news feed fairly limited to the couple of people I really care about what they have to say/are doing, lol – because some people I either don’t like their updates because it is crappy or some people even put some really inappropriate things there.

    You are quite moody aren’t you – “esp on a bad day”? LOL.. so… womanly 😀

    Go for it, I won’t be around tonight since it is 12:56AM now.. but I’ll be around in the morning.. or well, my morning!

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