Monthly Archives: May 2010

Flame Under My Ass

Thought I wouldn’t write today since I expected to be out until later at night, however, I’m home – just had my dinner after a short boxing session. Now I’m sitting in front of my computer, typing this blog after watching with my mom a show called “Big Boys Club” or “兄弟幫” in Chinese. I often catch sections of this show and the whole show revolves around “experienced” men (of all ages, generally celebrities) talking about a chosen episode-topic and it is a discussion based upon very frank and straightforward answers. The whole idea is if you’re a participant on the show, whatever gets asked, you tell. A lot of them involve every-day things and often illicit some extremely personal questions or opinions. Nevertheless, I’m surprized at how many participants truly pour their hearts out. Anyways, before what I’m saying will make sense, let’s hold off and tell you my story for the day…

After work, my girlfriend and I were supposed to do a bit of chair shopping, since I recently set up her computer on her desk and now she really needs a proper chair to sit up straight. Yesterday, we had spent a great day together, setting her “new” computer up, rearranging some furniture, learning how to shoot/holster, getting some stuff done on her laptop, eating and of course, lots of talking. It was a very thrilling day and although at times I still had problems controlling my need of physical affection, I cannot complain that all-in-all, it was a very productive and satisfying day. We have been chair-hunting for a while and before I left for the night, she asked me whether we could meet up again tomorrow (as in “today”) and the cutest thing ever she asked said right after was, “Is that too soon?” You can imagine, that I never think it is too soon to see her, haha.. if I had the choice, I’d want to be there for her 24/7 😀 So we arranged to go to a store to pick up the chair she’s been eyeing for a while.

Today, I had been looking forward to the end of work all day, expecting another wonderful day… perhaps this does show one person cannot have ‘too much luck’ all in a single week. Suffice to say, today was definitely not as great as yesterday and who’s “fault” it was is irrelevant and unnecessary. Before work ended, I had saw a bag of Sun Chips and a can of Pepsi, which I knew was her fav, so I picked them both up and left with them. When I got to her house, I gave her the snacks just as a small little treat for the ride to the store. The ride wasn’t long, but sometimes when you really feel affectionate towards sometimes, you find small ways just to let them know you’re always thinking about them. Maybe she saw it as “just food” and didn’t see the hidden meaning underneath it – but it was because I cared about her and always have her in my heart, therefore, even something as small as picking her up – I brought something for her!

When we got to the store, we mulled around for a few minutes before heading to the chair section. Upon arriving, we noticed that the chair she wanted, we proceeded to try out a couple others which were on-sale and thought perhaps one of those would suffice. We were told the chair she wanted (called the “79.99”-chair because we didn’t bother getting the name) wouldn’t be in until next week, so I had them check others stores, but to no avail. We were in there for quite a while and just ‘trying’ the chairs alone was a whole 45 minutes back-and-forth between the two chairs that were deemed “decently suitable”… however, one was quite a bit more expensive and the cheaper one didn’t provide her with the arm-support she wanted. Finally she finished playing around with the chairs and gave me this really dissatisfied look. Understandably, after coming all this way to get the chair, only to find out it wasn’t available is a bit dejecting.

Mind you, I was not angry at the fact she took a long time (not) picking-out a chair, because I am generally pretty patient (especially with girls) and watching her try out chairs WAS really fun. I should also mention today that I finally had this crazy revelation that I drool over my girlfriend… like really, she just used to be more or less cute and beautiful to me… and now the more I look at her, she’s becoming just downright sexy. Ok, so it’s nothing unusual for a boyfriend to drool over his girlfriend, but it was just “recently” that it finally has hit that point, haha…. so now she’s this awesome combination of cute, beautiful, and sexy. Anyways, let’s move on back to the original story…

I wonder if it’s true that people begin to take others for granted or don’t show the same level of appreciation as they once do when they’re together for a while. I asked her what she wanted to do after, hoping that she’d perhaps want to wander around somewhere nearby. She asked me if I had anything in mind, and I said, how about ____ mall? She said she had nothing to buy there so she didn’t want to go and asked me if I had to buy something there. I said no and she then said let’s just go home. I think at that point, I eyes just shot back to the back of my skull, because it was just yesterday that I reminded her that when we go places or see each other, it was just to spend time with each other, not necessarily because we go to a mall it must mean we have to have a purchasing objective. Nevertheless, I sighed and she still didn’t catch on. Sometimes I find she doesn’t “get my hints” and maybe that’s just because we haven’t been together long enough. I’m a very “visually surfaced” person, as in, it’s pretty obvious to tell my mood just by looking at me, unless I’m explicitly trying to hide it and in this case, I wasn’t.

So I proceeded to drive her back home, still miffed about the fact that it almost like she’s starting to take things for granted. I always try to find a balance to “treating girls like a princess” yet not trying to let them fall into the “princess syndrome”. Of course I truly care about her, I want to spoil her, I want to be the one she depends on, I want to be around her, even if it is something as simple as buying groceries, but I want her to still feel appreciative of things I do for her. I’m not asking her to grovel at my feet and treat me like a king, but I just think that she should know that I did purposely pick her up from her house, drive her to the store (which is actually on the opposite-side of town by MY house), and then of course offer to drive her back home… however, I felt it was very inconsiderate when she didn’t even think of me and want to spend some time with me at the mall, even if it was aimless wandering. I’m not “keeping track” and saying who owes who what, but certainly, I don’t want her to feel as if I’ve become her slave who doesn’t “deserve” anything beyond helping her and then taking her home.

On the way back, I really expected a bit of cheering up or in Cantonese, we call it “tum” (sorry, the character is too difficult for me to know how to write it, haha), for me… after all, it miffed me that she didn’t show any appreciation and just cared about going home since the chair wasn’t available… what happened to just enjoying time with me somewhere else? But anyways, as we pulled off the highway, 5 minutes from her house, I asked her what’s wrong. Then she asked me return what’s wrong >.> as if she couldn’t have asked that before I asked her – BLAH! I know that as a guy, it is our responsibility to “tum” the girl… but given a gender equality society we live in, I don’t think it’s ‘wrong’ to expect the girl to return the favour once in a while, especially if I was unhappy 😦

So as we arrived back at her house, I asked her whether she wanted me to come in or not. Luckily the saving grace was she said, “Sure, if you want.” although in a way it would’ve been nice for her to be more enthusiastic and be like “Sure, of course I do!” but hey – I guess you can’t ask for too much from luck sometimes. It was still a pretty quiet time, whether walking to her house or even in her room. Her first words were pretty much telling me not to sit on the “head” side of the bed, and I’m not sure whether that was for sanitary reasons or to continue spiting me :s I got rather bored doing stuff on my own laptop because all that was going through my head was all the stuff that happened, so I decided to ask to play Sims 2 on her computer and build a house since yesterday when we were playing, I didn’t want to hog the computer while she played the characters. Since today, she was doing some prep work for school, I had the liberty of being on the computer.

With this said, I want everyone to understand and know that I’m upset with her actions, I’m NOT upset with her as a person. In Chinese, the phrase “對事唔對人” comes to mind. I think some people might be confused as how someone could be “angry at a situation” but not the person because since the person is invoking the action to begin with. However, that is just what I am – I am not happy with what she done, but I am not unhappy with who she is as an individual. This comes to my usual question of whether a girl should likewise “cheer up” a guy if he’s not happy. Surely, it is most common to believe that it is a guy’s job to do it for the girl, but there may be times it warrants a bit of nudge-nudge-grin-grin from the girl to the guy as well!

My mom was always the type of woman who did not “take hints” well.. a lot of the times, she needs things laid out for her specifically. That was one thing my dad always told my mom she needed to improve on, was the fact that some things don’t need to be “said aloud” but rather, “taking hints” or being “tactful” (or 圓滑) is an important to an individual. Maybe I “expect” certain things to take place and I’m disappointed even more when it doesn’t. I did expect a bit of asking about my regards and a bit of cheering up from her when she saw I was upset, but all she did really was stare out the window. I have certainly known some people who are extremely “smooth” and can “talk their way” out of a situation. Sometimes when it comes to resolution, it really does come down to ‘defusing’ the situation. Sure, I might have been angry at one point, but all it takes sometimes is a word to change all that. I can’t be mad at her long, in fact, I feel better now after boxing anyways. Am I unhappy at what happened? Of course… but I’m not going to hold it against her for long and after a sleep, I’ll probably get over it anyways.

Back to my previous comments about the show, the “Big Boys Club”… there was one part that one of the participants said something really true and it really inspired me and suddenly I could feel myself calming down from this matter. He said, “女仔係帶返屋企錫” or literally translated is, “Girls is to return home to be kissed”…. – lol, and to translate it into the actual logical meaning, it is to say that “Girls are meant to be taken home to be loved.” and although my girlfriend has provided me with countless hours of anger, frustration and upset moments (and probably will continue to do that), I cannot deny that deep within me that she makes me happy, completes my life and is someone I truly care about and one day, love. On a good note is the fact that although she has told me that for the following 4 weeks, she’ll be enrolled in a Drivers Ed course (and therefore has no time for me on her usual ‘free’ day), she also told me that she’d probably be free on Thursday to spend time with me. Ahh… how she knows how to make me happy again 😛 I feel blessed to have her – it really is an amazing gift from the heavens!

She lit a flame under my ass today and it was not one of our “best moments” together… but just as I always remind her, every moment we get to spend together should be cherished, for better OR worse! I have to admit…. I can’t survive without her and she’s on my mind all the time… even when my eyes are closed and resting, every beat of my heart is just for her!

Lack of Updates – Soon to be Over!

Hi Everyone,

Sorry for the lack of updates recently… my last posting was 4 days ago! I try to stay on top of things, but it has been a busy 2 days with my girlfriend and my business. Of course both of them will come first! However, in the coming few days, I’ll be happily posting a review on Incognito, a “less known” brand of generic feminine hygiene products which have made it onto my “THIS PRODUCT IS AMAZING” radar! It takes a lot to impress me and this brand sure has done it. Stay tuned for a near-future update!!

Men’s Guide on Messy Menstruation

Hi Guys,

For those who are involved with a female partner/spouse or even a daughter, I’m sure at one point or another she will likely encounter period leakage, either through an unexpected start of menstruation or leakage as a result of a misplaced/overflowing feminine hygiene product. There are of course women who have a period accident and think of it as no big deal and if that’s the case, kudos! However as a guy, you have the role to ensure that your female companion or daughter is not embarrassed or ashamed at what happened. Period accidents are common whether you know it or not and women may simply not choose to share that type of intimate detail. However, as a husband/boyfriend or as a father, it is necessary for you to understand and know how to deal with such accidents when they occur. Period accidents unless it is negligence are often uncontrolled and should not be labeled as being “her fault” because IT HAPPENS. To spare you guys from throwing up, I’ll omit any pictures that I originally wanted to put up regarding period stains.

Dakota Fanning - The Runaways

To elaborate, in general, I consider a period accident to refer to a situation where a woman menstruates on an unintended area, in most cases, their panties/underwear. Accidents can often vary from small to large accidents, depending on the degree and area of saturation, which are often determined by the location of leakage, the cause of leakage, the material where the leak occurred, the amount of time before the leak is found and also the level of flow which was leaked. Leaks that have the largest impact are usually those that occur during sleeping hours since one may not notice the leak until she wakes up. Also, period accidents may not be very noticeable at first if it’s just a bit of damping (since a pad generally has a degree of dampness to it), but if it leaks in the right place it may go undetected until it “shows” out external clothing. This is often a mortifying moment for a girl, so as a partner, you should definitely provide her a way to avoid prying eyes such as giving her something to cover it up or even buy her some clean articles of clothing for her to change.

Lady Gaga - Tampon String Performance

Period stains can happen anywhere and anytime (assuming she’s menstruating). Period accidents that involve a sudden start in her period can usually be avoided by keeping an accurate track of her menstrual cycle. Most girls do this so it may not be necessary for you to be involved in that (unless you choose to), however, if she does not, help her keep track as that can prevent an unexpected start of her period where she does not have any feminine hygiene products available or already “on” to prepare for her start. However, some girls even before they start being to have ‘period symptoms’ where they experience certain feelings in their lower abdominal where they have an idea that their period is about to begin, even without doing explicit tracking. The method of tracking a girl’s menstrual cycle only works well if she is already “regular” and does not have irregular cycles. The use of pantiliners or a small pad is advisable when the beginning of menstruation nears.

Alternately, period accidents occur when a feminine hygiene product is not placed in the correct spot (or gets shifted as a result of moving) or if the product is over-saturated. In cases like these, accidents may be avoided by choosing a higher absorbency product or changing more frequently. For pad users, using tighter underwear which helps keep the pad closer to the vagina will help reduce the “space” in between the pad and vagina, preventing the flow from landing on an unintended target. Understandably, women cannot “control” how/where the flow comes out (even if the only exit-point is through the vagina). Putting a pad in the correct spot, where flow is likely to contact at the “strongest” point pad is advisable, although this takes experience over-time to figure this out. For tampons, finding one that contours to the shape of the vaginal canal is an excellent idea. However, like ANY product, over-saturation can and will occur, so knowing how long a product will last or keeping a good eye on it will prevent a period accident from occuring. Using pads with wings can be good or bad because with wings, it MAY prevent side leakage… although at times, having the wings actually CHANNELS the leak to happen – so, I shall reserve my comments on whether it is better to ues pads with or without wings. Pads are a bit more eaisly checked than tampons. The trick to knowing the saturation of tampons is to slightly tug on the string. If the tampon comes out with ease, then it has already reached a point of saturation where it will smoothly slide out. If there is resistance, the tampon is still ‘dry’ and does not need to be changed (unless it has been used for a period of 8 hours or for hygienic reasons).

There’s a few things that guys can do OR offer to a girl in regards to period accidents such as…:

  • Consider using overlapping pads for overnight to allow more protected coverage area
  • If a woman is in too much pain, learn how to change her feminine hygiene product for her – yes, it is not “pretty”, but you are a MAN
  • If she’s prone to leaking at night, lay down towels, use old sheets or plastic/vinyl padding so that a period leak doesn’t get onto the bed itself and make cleaning easier
  • Find some old pants or panties which you don’t mind getting leaked on, use them during your period
  • If you are tasked to do her laundry or she needs assistance to get out period stains, soak the garment in cold salt water and then follow it up with bleach (if appropriate for material/colour). It is important to not use the dryer when still getting out period (blood) stains. Using hot water may cause the blood to set into the fabric.
  • When it comes to period stains, it is always best to tackle it while it is still wet. The longer a stain stands for, the harder it is to get out. Avoid using chemicals to remove period stains as a good mixture of vinegar works well
  • Wear panties that are darker colour and nylon as it is the easiest material to clean
  • If you require intervention from cleaners, first try to use environmentally-friendly dishwasher liquid as it helps break-down the blood stain’s chemical bond
  • Use alternative products like menstrual cups, sea sponges or cloth pads which generally last longer than conventional pads/tampons
  • You could try using incontinence pads or underwear (Poise Pads/Tena Pads) which have an extremely large absorbency capacity
  • The last resort would be to use chemical cleaners or detergent
  • Use a combination of pad + tampon for those with extremely heavy flows… however, those who plan on sleeping more than 8 hours should be aware that they will need to get change it to prevent the increased risk of TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome)
  • Try using hydrogen peroxide

[I swear I had a few more things in my head and after dinner, I totally lost track… will fill it in once it comes to my mind]

14 Differences Between Japanese Women & Chinese Women

I’m out today helping out at a party.. so don’t have time to write a full post.. but I did find something amusing as I was checking out my “usual sites” while on break at my laptop. This is strictly for humour purposes, so no need to moan, groan, bitch or cry about it 😛 This post does not define the way I view women but I did get a chuckle. The contents included within the quoted portions belong to another site as noted in the title section of the entry.

14 Differences Between Japanese Women & Chinese Women

61 commentsby Fauna on Saturday, May 8, 2010

Women: China vs. Japan.

This is not new but has recently spread on the Chinese internet again.

On China.com and cn.MSN.com:

Japanese women vs. Chinese women: A little mean, but makes some good points!

1.

Japanese women often teach their children to bravely fight the forces of evil, and even if they lose, it is still infinitely glorious, the highest honor.

Chinese women often teach their children that when they encounter the forces of evil they must be good at hiding/running away/avoiding. They say that God will punish them [the forces of evil].

2.

Japanese women believe Japan is the world’s greatest country.

Chinese women usually believe that the moon may be rounder abroad [“the grass is greener”].

3.

Japanese women usually believe marrying foreigners is a kind of disgrace.

Chinese women usually feel that marrying foreigners is a kind of infinite glory.

4.

Japanese women are normally lady-like, but dirty in bed.

Many Chinese women are lady-like in bed, but dirty out of bed.

5.

Most Japanese women abide by the rules of a woman, supporting her husband, raising her children, dutifully.

China is the world’s number one country for one-night stands and extramarital affairs.

6.

Japanese women are almost all very filial, seeing their mother-in-law as their own mother.

Most Chinese women are all too eager for their mother-in-law to quickly die.

7.

Japanese wives treat their husbands with encouragement and concern. Returning home late at night exhausted at the end of a day, the wife will say “you’ve had a tough day.”

Chinese wives treat their husbands with complaints and scolding. Returning home late at night exhausted at the end of a day, the wife will roar “where the hell did you go this time?”

8.

Most young Japanese girls will find a man who is around their age to marry, and make a life with him together.

Young Chinese girls always find a wealthy “old” man, and don’t mind even being his Nth mistress/wife.

9.

Japanese mothers teach their daughters to look after their husbands, and diligently be filial to her parents-in-law.

Chinese mothers teach their daughters that they must keep firm control of all the man’s assets.

10.

Japanese women can tolerate men without money [poor men], but definitely cannot tolerate cowardly and weak men.

Chinese women can tolerate cowardly and weak men, but definitely cannot tolerate men without money.

11.

Japanese women see manly men as the most charming men.

Chinese women see manly men as male chauvinists.

12.

Most Japanese women are very lenient towards men’s infidelity.

Most Chinese women are very lenient towards their own infidelity.

13.

Japanese women almost never say bad things about Japanese men in public or in the media.

Chinese women always loudly curse and mock Chinese men on various media.

14.

The first words of Japanese women on their wedding night is: “If I do not look after/service you well tonight, please be forgiving.”

The first words of Chinese women on their wedding night is: “Hurry and see how much money was received today.”

Comments from cn.MSN.com:

MR.lau:

Different countries have different cultures.

njmct:

There are good things and bad things. Chinese people just have more bad things.

Eugenie:

Japan has more virgins…

喜获:

Japan has AV [adult video] women, China does not, this is the root.

ohyeah0715:

Haha…I see it as just a joke = = Some definitely make some sense…though if women saw this they probably would be very unhappy…Some of it is different circumstances, some things result from different traditions and culture…society is the key, and actually women are innocent…

SIMPLE-KATE:

Many of them are not accurate, just ask those who have experience studying abroad in Japan, not a single one wants to marry Japanese women.

EllaZhang2010:

Seeing this makes me feel the lou zhu is Japanese. With the conditions being different in the two countries, there is nothing that is comparable. Using this post to put down a country is a bit too comical.

梨涡浅浅:

I bet the lou zhu was born in Japan. If not, then he must be sent by Japanese to stir up trouble with China.

安柒佑:

Just as the LZ said, what cannot be denied is that it does reflect some characteristics of Chinese female’s.
But Chinese people have always been an arrogant people, unwilling to listen to our own bad side,
nor willing to search for the problems on ourselves, but instead will search for the shortcomings of the other party and fight back…
LZ’s post can be very controversial, can be very explosive!

牛百万:

I think the “Chinese” and “Japanese” in the post should all be changed to “some”.

Taking a part as the whole will only hurt the majority of innocent people.

I trust that the two types of women in the post both appear in every country.

Everyone knows that China is a “large denominator” country, so, I am willing to say, China has more good women than any country in the world; At the same time, China’s also has the most bad women in the world. We must face ourselves.

This post is obviously being too extreme~

cqc4500:

May I ask those who approve of these sayings, have you guys ever met/known/interacted with Japanese women before?

梦落百花殺:

[I] only know that Japanese women are niubi in bed, the rest [I] don’t really know~~

A friend found a Japanese girlfriend, and he said that in less than 3 days, she had already said “I love you” and established their relationship. Then pretty much every night thereafter, the girl has “special requests”, truly has a big appetite…

Comments from China.com:

antisb:

Japanese AV female stars know to raise donations for Chinese earthquakes. Whereas China’s movie queen knows to exploit the earthquake to collect donations for herself and her own fame!
Japanese prostitutes don’t hide what they are, whereas China’s whores insist on their own dignity!

圣人不仁:

It basically speaks the truth, and speaking of just Southeast Asia, Chinese women are all ranked from the bottom.

再平广岛:

As someone who really hates Japanese people, in comparison, I too believe this is basically in accordance with teh truth. *Sweating wildly…

再平广岛:

Although, there’s something I forgot to say. With Japanese women being this good, this only increases my motivation to exterminate Japanese men.

天才笨笨猪:

Comrades must work hard, so we may seize/occupy Japan in the future, kill all Japanese men, and steal all the Japanese women.

杀回人生:

Had I known sooner I wouldn’t have gotten married!! ~Too late now!!~

最后红卫兵:

Do you guys know that those who make AV in Japan these days are basically Chinese women? I haven’t watched AV in a long time, so the ones you guys are watching are probably older ones…
And what more, they always have the Chinese perform the most obscene/dirty kind…

modi12:

While it is true that Chinese women have relatively more shortcomings, Japanese women are far from perfect. Take for example them waiting for you at the door when you return home, helping hold your bag/briefcase and saying you’ve had a tough day. This is just Japan’s basic etiquette, there’s no real meaning/sincerity. After marriage, Japanese women often just stay at home and no longer work, not independent like Chinese women, and what more, they believe that if they still have to go out and work after getting married, they will be looked down upon by others.

凤山道人:

Chinese women these days are seriously too dirty, too lousy, and too shameless!!!

小烦:

All a result of education/upbringing. China’s education/upbringing cannot even be called “failure”. Using “shameless” to describe would be more appropriate.
Actually, louzhu only criticizing Chinese women is very unfair. It is not as if Chinese men are any better.
In today’s Chinese society, the men are thieves, the women are whores, the old are hooligans, the young are bastards.

Comparison of Korean, Chinese, and Japanese girls' faces.

and now I conclude that perhaps I should be looking for a Japanese wife…. LOL!

(Source included within the article title and content belongs to all their respective owners)

Telling the Truth in a Relationship: Being Moral or Being Stupid?

Today, I pondered this notion… whether telling the truth sometimes is a smart idea. I know plenty of circumstances in life often warrant telling a lie… most common in our family is sometimes we have hidden the passing of an elderly family member from an equally elderly member to prevent them from having to go through the grief and perhaps damage their already fragile/failing health. Whether or not doing something like this is valid and moral, it is up to you to decide where you think “telling the truth” is beneficial.

Relationship: Is telling the truth BENEFICIAL or HARMFUL?

Today, I encountered one of the many times this has happened to me recently in my relationship where telling the truth didn’t always render goodwill or an understanding. I’m finding myself being more drawn-back from wanting to tell the truth to my Bebe. I always believed that in a relationship, one should be truthful about the type of person we are and of course, speak the truth. I particularly find it revolting for people to lie to their boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, significant other, spouse, or what have you… However, recently, I’ve been often trying to hide myself away from telling her things about myself. Ever sinec the initial incident, I’ve tried to avoid conversations of my personal life (to a degree obviously), my experiences or family matters because I have found sometimes she makes judgments and begins to have negative attitudes towards things I say and thus, have sheltered most of our conversations away from those topics.

I made a grave mistake today, bringing up the topic of my mom with her. I love my mom dearly and hold her in high respects, but it is no truth if I say I do not get into fights with her, disagreements, or arguments. I do not “like” or “condone” everything my mom does, so sometimes the differences in opinions generate friction, but does not mean we do not live well under a single household. Oddly enough, the dynamics of this family is truly held together by our two different personalities resulting in a fairly complimentary roles in our family unit.

So… which comes to the point of me telling her about my family and talking about my family. Today, she drew some very negative conclusions about the way I talked about my mom. Maybe you could say I often make conversations more 誇張 (exaggerated) than they really are, but she takes what I say and then holds it against me and gets all upset with me about it. I will admit, I have my downfalls as a person, there are times when some people have chastised me with the way I have spoken with my mom or reacted to something she’s done. I’m not saying I’m the “perfect son” (although would say I am a “good son”), so surely, there sometimes are lines that get crossed. Nevertheless, she was very unhappy with me telling about my conversations with my mom. Suffice to say, I can understand that perhaps she would dare not speak to her own parents that way, but to criticize me seems awkward, especially when she does not know the fully story or the scenarios which led up to the point. In the past, I have criticized her about the way she treats her brothers (including elder ones) and she went all pissy on me about it… and now, she turns around on me and gives me shit for it -__-”

To be fair, neither of us truly understands each others family matters at the moment, so I think it’s unfair for either of us to be calling each other on about how we talk, things we do or the roles we play within our own family structure. That is not to say our families won’t get together or that we do not make a great couple, but that we should hold reservations when it comes to passing judgment. She didn’t get ‘mad’ at listening to me tell her the conversation between my mom and I, but she certainly had a negative word or two to say to me and she’s obviously holding those thoughts in her head now about the way she perceives me. This comes down to my question of how honest should couples be with each other about themselves? This will really make me second-guess whether I want to tell her anything more about myself or events/people around me.

It makes me sad that this is the second instance this has really plopped up in my head. I want our relationship to be open, honest and frank… not filled with mysteries. Although I would not per se, want to being lying to her… I definitely have to “jazz things up” before I tell her things.. make it sound pretty or perhaps tell her in convoluted ways in which it will create a “positive spin” (kind of like politicians… take something bad and actually manage to make it sound good). I prefer not to have things “surprize her” by letting her know the real-deal rather than hiding things from her, but she leaves me little choice because I don’t feel I can express things without it negatively affecting us.

This frustrates me because I dislike lying because I feel it is immoral, especially when it comes to things that represent who I am. I have this want to start turning things I do and say into”a false reality”, where I am “perfect” in her eyes, rather than being the real me where we can learn to accept each others shortcomings. I am not a perfect person, I have done and probably will do things which are wrong. I do not believe it is fair to expect perfection from a person, even if it is a partner or spouse. We all have flaws and having them held against me makes me want to hide these flaws, rather than being truthful and expressing them where we can help one another overcome these obstacles.

It sounds like I’m going in circles now, because I start to feel that telling the truth or expressing the ‘real me’ around her has negative effects. I should start being “fake” or telling only the “pretty parts” of a story and leaving all the realities out. It sometimes makes me think that I should be a fairytale or something. I don’t want to be like that becasue the truth will surface at one point or another. However, if she just wants someone who does everything “right in her eyes”… then I have to start changing the things I say, do or methods of which I express myself. I don’t want to… I detest the notion that I need to… yet, where is the line of rationale and morals?

For the sake of a relationship, is it right to be a person you really aren't?

Should we make ourselves appear to “exactly what our partners want” just to appease them? Is this actually lying or simply a way of jazzing things up and making ourselves appear “better” than we really are? It may be false, but it also does help keep a relationship going. Should we simply be “less” truthful – but not to the point of lying? I haven’t considered how I’m going to tackle this, because this isn’t the first time where my openly-truthful self has caused me to bite my own tongue. It doesn’t make sense that I cannot freely express myself and inner-self to a girl who I truly care about, but at the same time, if it generates negativity and impacts our relationships or her view of me, I rather lie about it and “modify” stories to ‘her liking’ where I come out as the hero, an honourable and FLAWLESS person. That’s unrealistic… but maybe everyone wants a perfect boyfriend/girlfriend…

Weekly Sales #8

These deals are only applicable to select regions of Canada, Ontario. Please verify these sales against your local flyer or e-flyer before purchase!

Ya... 'cuz you know, women just have a happy period all the time 🙂

I’ve been hunting for (Original) Kotex sales for a while now… still only 2 so far and it isn’t really a “great deal”… I suppose 2.50/ea @ SDM is not too bad if I buy two. Guess I’ll check it out, see what they have and perhaps get some! The stock is running low, don’t want to let it hit rock-bottom 😛

Weekly Sales

Pharma Plus and Rexall Chains

Assorted Always Maxi Pads, Kotex Maxi Pads/Liners, Stayfree Maxi Pads, Carefree Liners, Tampax Tampons and O.B. Tampons 2 for $6.99

Assorted Playtex Gentle Glide (36’s) and Sports Tampons (36’s) for $8.49

Zellers

Assorted Always Maxi Pads/Liners and Tampax Tampons for $6.99

Walmart

Assorted “U” by Kotex Maxi Pads/Liners/Tampons Jumbo Boxes for $7.97

Fortinos/RCSS Chains

Assorted “U” by Kotex Maxi Pads (14-18’s)/Liners (50-60’s)/Tampons (18’s) for $4.29

Shoppers Drug Mart

Assorted Kotex Maxi Pads (14-24’s)/Liners (33-48’s) 2 for $5.00 [Limit 4, Sat/Sun/Mon .. or $3.29/ea for rest of the week]

Assorted Playtex Gentle Glide (18’s) and Sports Tampons (18’s) for $3.99

Assorted O.B. Tampons (40’s) and Stayfree Maxi Pads (28-48’s) for $7.99

Got something that is red, but not my period! It is a….

new digital camera!!! 😀

It is so damn sexy, I love it! It is a Nikon Coolpix L110 and these are the spec overview:

Max resolution 4000 x 3000
Low resolution 3968 x 2232, 3264 x 2448, 2592 x 1944, 2048 x 1536, 1024 x 768, 640 x 480
Image ratio w:h 4:3, 16:9
Effective pixels 12.2 million
Sensor photo detectors 12.4 million
Sensor size 1/2.3 ” (6.16 x 4.62 mm, 0.28 cm²)
Pixel density 43 MP/cm²
Sensor type CCD
Sensor manufacturer Unknown
ISO rating Auto, Auto gain ISO 80-800, 80, 100, 200, 400, 800, 1600, (3200, 6400 with boost)
Zoom wide (W) 28 mm
Zoom tele (T) 420 mm (15 x)
Digital zoom Yes, 4x
Image stabilization Yes, Sensor-shift
Auto Focus TTL
Manual Focus Yes
Normal focus range 60 cm
Macro focus range 1 cm
White balance override 5 positions plus manual
Aperture range F3.5 – F5.4
Min shutter 8 sec
Max shutter 1/2000 sec
Built-in Flash Yes, (Pop-Up)
Flash range
External flash No
Flash modes Auto, On, Off, Red-eye, Fill-in, Slow Syncro
Exposure compensation -2 to +2 EV in 1/3 EV steps
Metering
Aperture priority No
Shutter priority No
Focal length multiplier
Lens thread
Continuous Drive Yes, 13 fps
Movie Clips Yes, 1280 x 720 (HD 30 fps), 640 x 480 (30 fps), 320 x 240 (30 fps)
Remote control Yes
Self-timer Yes, 3 sec or 10 sec
Timelapse recording Unknown
Orientation sensor Unknown
Storage types SD/SDHC, Internal
Storage included 43 MB Internal
Uncompressed format No
Quality Levels
Viewfinder None
LCD 3 “
LCD Dots 460,000
Live View No
USB USB 2.0 (480Mbit/sec)
HDMI Yes
Wireless No
GPS No
Environmentally sealed No
Battery 4 x AA batteries (Alkaline, NiMH, or Lithium)
Weight (inc. batteries) 406 g (14.3 oz)
Dimensions 109 x 74 x 78 mm (4.3 x 2.9 x 3.1 in)
Notes
Resolution Chart
Colour Patches

Of course this isn’t a DSLR, but with the price I got it at, it’s pretty good for the quality you’d expect! I’ve already spent quite a while playing with it and this is supposed to be a “dummy camera”… because I’m no professional photographer. A couple of people I know told me to get a DSLR because it will still of course produce better quality pictures of “Auto” mode, but truly, I cannot justify getting any type of SLR camera unless I fully intend on learning how to use it properly and not simply leaving it on Auto.

I bought it with a coworker of mine because he specializes in photographic technologies, so thought he’d be an excellent person to come to the store with me to pick it out. Also, because he’s a member, I did get a discount and all 😆

The camera so far has been pretty easy to use, not “requiring” me to have to pick up the manual since the on-screen directions already provide ease-of-access. Perhaps having a bit of technology background, I can navigate through the options, understand the symbols and all that fairly easily. Nevertheless, I have lots to learn and will likely not have learned everything by the time I retire this. The reason why I got a new camera was because the one we used for 8 years is finally giving out. Even after putting completely new batteries in, after about 3-4 shots, it says “Low Battery” and shuts off. A couple of times, it was so defective that the camera didn’t even fully retract the lens in during the middle of a shutdown sequence, so now you can tell why I need a new camera. I was hoping to wait until I went to Hong Kong to get it, but wanted to have a nice camera to use before then. There’s a few big events that are coming up within the next while which would be nice to have a decent resolution camera (the old one was only 4MP) and I purposely got this one for the fact it has HD video recording capabilities (for when I want to make my own sex movies… HAHAHA.. just joking :)).

This was no “cheap” camera… it was expensive as shit and it really took me some time to think and take into consideration whether I want to fork out this kind of money. No doubt, my career does not rely on having a camera, therefore I would not buy a $30,000 camera like photographers would… I’m simply a “point-and-shoot” person and perhaps with a few expectations of features. This will really set my wallet back a bit… looks like I’ll have to eat noodles for the next few months to save up my money again 😦 Anyone spare money for the poor please? I was given the choice of BLACK or RED … and because I found the black to be more of a matte black rather than a metallic red, I chose this one. Heck, so many people have standard black cameras, I thought it’d stand out a bit with my sexy red 😀

Since I had it at work with me, I decided to take a few pictures of my office. These are not the original as obviously I’ve done some compression and down-sizing to accommodate my upload, but I was completely satisfied with the quality the shots produced compared to my old camera, haha.. for obvious reasons.

I’ve used a “medium” sized setting for the display picture and you’re welcome to click on it to get a larger resolution picture. I just didn’t want to eat up everyone’s bandwidth and make my blog a slow-loader 🙂

Yes, the darkness is real... that IS exactly the lighting that I work in...

Doesn't the flash really enhance the picture? My office actually has all the lights off!

The whiteboard serves little purpose, although I decorate it so my boss things I'm actually working =

Books, a fan, certificates, a plant, thank-you cards, meeting notes.. oh the list goes on...

Oh how could I live without multiple monitors? I don't even have my other two set up as I was rearranging my desk!

Ahh.... back into the darkness. The #2 reason why I took this new job (hence the office space) was because it came with a door... and a WINDOW - GLORY!!

Although you're probably staring at the whiteboard, it's the hook on the wall for my jacket that this picture is actually depicting 😀

A solid door, love it... no one knows I'm in and I prefer it that way! It's to keep the damn mobs on the other side.

The view outside my window... it makes a BIG difference in my day!

Now… back to playing with my camera! Hope you guys had an awesome day.

Dear Prexus Swyftwynd

Kindly allow me to play “Aunt Agony” for today ;P

1. How do you personally differentiate the phases of dating? For instance, before two people officially commit to each other, is it still referred to as dating? What would be the appropriate “description” you would assign it? I’m referring to the courting process where two people have not necessarily committed themselves, although there may be a degree of exclusivity. Would you consider the label of dating assigned only when two people are boyfriend/girlfriend, boyfriend/boyfriend & girlfriend/girlfriend?

Technically, “dating” refers to when a person makes time exclusively for a particular person. You could date your friend for a movie, date for a business-cum-lunch meeting, or date a special girl/guy romantically 😛 “Date” does not necessarily mean you only see a particular girl for some time. Some people date multiple girls/guys romantically. To me, a “date” does not imply that I am being in some sort of or the beginning of some romantic relationship, just that I am making time to meet someone. I could substitute the word “date” with “meeting”.

Which brings me to the next question….

2. What’s the best way to depart from the end of a date or even something casual? Recently, I ashamedly say that my leaves at the end of an event, I often cannot find ways to depart gracefully. I have always considered myself a gentleman, but I’m starting to question that. I struggle to depart from the girl in a proper manner as often I will leave hastily to avoid myself from being attached and overly affectionate. Anyone who knows me will know I really enjoy physical affection, especially at the end of a date. Do you have a preferred way of ‘saying goodbye’ or have expectations of how a guy should say his goodbye when they are not at the stages of physical affection yet? I am embarrassed, because I’ve never had this happen to me before… with all dates I’ve had, there was always been a degree of physical contact, even on the first date. In general, my dates have always been girls out of my “good friends” (or girls I’ve known for a LONG time) list.. that’s why there’s never been a lack of contact-comfort with each other and I’m not sure how to handle girls who aren’t like that.

Use your mouth. I don’t mean a kiss on the lips, but try something simple and sweet, like a peck on the cheek. Kiss her like you kiss your Mom. Affectionate but not asking for anything. Tell her how much you like her, how cute you think she is. Or while walking her up to the doorstep, or in the car (while you’re driving – preferably a few minutes before reaching her place) – lightly clasp your fingers around her hand – just for a moment, so she will be startled, yet not enough time for her to pull away because you have released her hand before she knew what happened. So you get to show her some physical affection, yet in such a way as to not make her feel uncomfortable. DON’T then tell her how much you love her bla bla bla. She can TELL by your fleeting gesture. If she makes an unhappy face, give her an small shy smile. SHY smile, not LECHEROUS smile lol.


3. When it comes to sleeping with someone, do you believe that it requires the same comfort-level as having sex? I consider sleeping to be JUST sleeping and nothing more. I have slept with girls before, on the same bed, but without any required sexual-contact. Do you believe that in order for you to feel comfortable enough to sleep with someone, that would also be the same comfort level you would need to engage in “other” activities?

For me, sleeping with friends is fine. Same bed, same couch, is fine. We love doing everything together! *starts missing her wacky friends* Just NO BODY CONTACT, be it male or female bedmate, sexual or not.

4. This might sound stupid… but how does one resist the temptation.. or maybe the word is enticement of being physically affectionate to a girl (or boy, if that is your case) you are ‘with’? When I’m to the left of her, I often want to hold her hands. When I’m to the right of her, I often want to put my arms around her shoulders. When I’m behind her, I often want to hold/hug her from behind. However, when I’m in front of her, I find it very rude that I’m walking ahead and ignoring her… at the same time, that’s the only way I’m out-of-each from the temptation of expressing my feelings for her through physical contact. I want to be polite and gentlemanly while maintain my sanity. I would not disagree if you said I lack self-control – because when I’m with her, really, I do.

Well, you could stifle your affection for her for a few dates. Be aloof, be cold. I know it’s hard, but it’s the only way for her to realise “Hey, some thing’s missing! Some thing’s up with him!” Then she will ask, “What’s wrong? How come you’re so different?”

THEN you explain to her your dilemma. Do NOT use the term “lack of self-control”. Emphasise However, when I’m in front of you, I find it very rude that I’m walking ahead and ignoring you… at the same time, that’s the only way I’m out-of-each from the temptation of expressing my feelings for you through physical contact.” .


5. What’s the best way to approach the issue of buying something for her? I want to buy her things sometimes, but I always want it to be a surprize. However, I am a very practical person and would not want to purchase something for someone they will not use/appreciate. Most people would say, “Well, you should know what she likes…” – but honestly, girls have different expectations every 6 seconds, so rather than making a “guess”, I want it to be a well-informed decision. Is it tacky to take her to the place where you want to buy her something and ask? (It isn’t a wedding ring… by then though, I sure as hell should know what she likes!)

Nah, don’t do bring her to the place and ask. Try to gather her interests and what she needs or wants by chatting with her, do it in a roundabout way so she doesn’t know you’re planning of buying anything for her.

For example, “My friends were thinking of buying a farewell present for a long-time female friend, what do you think we should get her?” or “Recently I watched this drama where this girl got a gift from so-and-so and she wasn’t too happy so she chucked it in her closet and forgot about it, and it’s her birthday present! What kind of present you think would suit a girl with her personality?”. Be creative. 😉

If she does pick up on you, you say “Huh? Uh, I wasn’t thinking of buying you anything – I know you’re not that kind of girl.” I know, it’s a little bit of an ouchie – but what’s a lil ouchie for the smile that brightens every bit of your being? 🙂

6. Is it reasonable to want/ask for a date at least once a week? Although I prefer more, she is occupied with school/homework or simply wants to watch her shows/relax/sleep. I try to get her to become more open with the idea of frequent, but short time spent together, to help build enough comfort/topics to talk about. Would you consider once a week to be too long or too short of a time-span?

Once a week is A-ok. More often and soon you may run out of things to talk about. I know it doesn’t seem that way now, but trust me, it will be that way sooner or later – what’s the rush? Give her time to miss you! Time waiting builds excitement! ^^ One of the long-term couples I know (6 years+) only meet up once a week – or twice if time permits – but keep in touch by instant messaging, short and sweet phone calls, text messages and such. If you want to SEE her, there’s always Skype 😛 I know, why Skype when you can just drive over? But hey, Skyping is silly and fun – it’s the small silly things that make a relationship sweet and romantic. “OK, since you don’t want to date me, I’ll date you online then!” – lame jokes like that. 😉

Some Feminine Hygiene Videos (Not porn, sorry) and Open Questions

Thought I’d take a break from writing a long post until I have the energy to write one! For the time being, thought I’d leave you guys a few videos I bumped into… unfortunately, lots of them are in Cantonese, but I’m sure for the flow-lovers out there, you’re going to get a kick out of a bunch of cute Asian girls talking about sanitary napkins either way!

OurRadio.hk : 女皇教室 : 衛生巾之王 I – King of Sanitary Napkin I

OurRadio.hk : 女皇教室 : 衛生巾之王 II – King of Sanitary Napkin II

CM – KAO – LAURIER SUPER SLIM GUARD

2009年Stayfree超特長夜用衛生巾廣告

I’ll move these over to the Media Centre section after a while, so no worries – they’ll be available for you guys later on! The first two videos entitled “King of Sanitary Napkins” really rock… although I’m not sure why they didn’t use “Queen” instead… after all, it’s more feminine. Through my browsing on twitter today, I landed on an amazing website m-gun.com You might wonder what the hell is m-gun, whether it is a machine gun of some sort. No, m-gun is the exact English pronouciation of the Chinese phrase m巾 which is commonly used in Hong Kong and Taiwan as short form for “m” (as in menstruation) and “巾” (as in napkin) – therefore, menstruation napkin (literal translation). Although many of my readers may not understand the verbal content, I’m sure you will love the opportunity to see the variety of pads offered in Asia, not only the numbers, but the excellent designs, thinness (although I prefer thickness :P), absorbency and comfort (well visually at least). It makes me sad to be a flow-lover living in Canada where there are limited choices 😦 Oh well… enough bitching from me.

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On to the personal part… recently, I’ve had some thoughts I’d like to express and seek opinions from anyone willing to give them. You’re not being graded on this and I’m not going to freak out if you give me an answer I don’t agree with – just say what’s on your mind!

  1. How do you personally differentiate the phases of dating? For instance, before two people officially commit to each other, is it still referred to as dating? What would be the appropriate “description” you would assign it? I’m referring to the courting process where two people have not necessarily committed themselves, although there may be a degree of exclusivity. Would you consider the label of dating assigned only when two people are boyfriend/girlfriend, boyfriend/boyfriend & girlfriend/girlfriend?
  2. What’s the best way to depart from the end of a date or even something casual? Recently, I ashamedly say that my leaves at the end of an event, I often cannot find ways to depart gracefully. I have always considered myself a gentleman, but I’m starting to question that. I struggle to depart from the girl in a proper manner as often I will leave hastily to avoid myself from being attached and overly affectionate. Anyone who knows me will know I really enjoy physical affection, especially at the end of a date. Do you have a preferred way of ‘saying goodbye’ or have expectations of how a guy should say his goodbye when they are not at the stages of physical affection yet? I am embarrassed, because I’ve never had this happen to me before… with all dates I’ve had, there was always been a degree of physical contact, even on the first date. In general, my dates have always been girls out of my “good friends” (or girls I’ve known for a LONG time) list.. that’s why there’s never been a lack of contact-comfort with each other and I’m not sure how to handle girls who aren’t like that.
  3. When it comes to sleeping with someone, do you believe that it requires the same comfort-level as having sex? I consider sleeping to be JUST sleeping and nothing more. I have slept with girls before, on the same bed, but without any required sexual-contact. Do you believe that in order for you to feel comfortable enough to sleep with someone, that would also be the same comfort level you would need to engage in “other” activities?
  4. This might sound stupid… but how does one resist the temptation.. or maybe the word is enticement of being physically affectionate to a girl (or boy, if that is your case) you are ‘with’? When I’m to the left of her, I often want to hold her hands. When I’m to the right of her, I often want to put my arms around her shoulders. When I’m behind her, I often want to hold/hug her from behind. However, when I’m in front of her, I find it very rude that I’m walking ahead and ignoring her… at the same time, that’s the only way I’m out-of-reach from the temptation of expressing my feelings for her through physical contact. I want to be polite and gentlemanly while maintain my sanity. I would not disagree if you said I lack self-control – because when I’m with her, really, I do.
  5. What’s the best way to approach the issue of buying something for her? I want to buy her things sometimes, but I always want it to be a surprize. However, I am a very practical person and would not want to purchase something for someone they will not use/appreciate. Most people would say, “Well, you should know what she likes…” – but honestly, girls have different expectations every 6 seconds, so rather than making a “guess”, I want it to be a well-informed decision. Is it tacky to take her to the place where you want to buy her something and ask? (It isn’t a wedding ring… by then though, I sure as hell should know what she likes!)
  6. Is it reasonable to want/ask for a date at least once a week? Although I prefer more, she is occupied with school/homework or simply wants to watch her shows/relax/sleep. I try to get her to become more open with the idea of frequent, but short time spent together, to help build enough comfort/topics to talk about. Would you consider once a week to be too long or too short of a time-span?

For those who have taken the time to answer this, thank you for your input! Your opinion is greatly valued, whether it is positive or negative feedback.

I already have an idea for an upcoming on-topic-post, so hope you drop by again soon! 🙂

Donnie Yen is My Today – Menstrual Hero

Found this on Kay’s Entertainment…

From what I understand, I believe this is translated from a Chinese article, so the wording may not be 100% accurate, but the general idea is there! I take no credit for this article… only for finding it 🙂

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Donnie Yen Is Willing to Buy Sanitary Napkins For Wife

Source: Mingpao
Translated by: KAY

Donnie Yen attended to a press conference for “Yip Man 2” in Taiwan. He said: “You’re supposed to love and care about women. Because she’s my life-long partner, of course I’ll have to treat her well 100%.” Donnie even disclosed generously that if his wife is in need, he will go to the pharmacy and buy sanitary napkins for her. He said with laughs: “Although it might be a little embarrassing, but still have to buy it.” His caring words touched host of the press conference and she said: “Companies should consider asking this Yip Man to endorse female hygiene products, it will be ‘Yuet Man.'”

Now this is truly an upstanding man. Clearly his devotion, humility and being a good husband is attributed to his honourable practice of martial arts discipline. Donnie Yen (甄子丹) – you are my hero of the day! I hope all men will take the time to take heed of our commitments to our significant other. I know for sure that if by bebe every needed it, she can expect me without hesitation to do it for her as well! Even disregarding the fact he is willing to buy his wife’s feminine hygiene, he has one striking statement… Because she’s my life-long partner, of course I’ll have to treat her well 100%”

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