Oh my lord, I was so excited when I read this story! Finally, women who appreciate a guy’s openness in menstruation and being caring about it. Sure, I admit I might be more over-zealous compared to these guys when it comes to periods and feminine hygiene, but it’s probably better I’m like that than the opposite and be those guys who utterly hate and are disgusted by a bit of menstrual flow and products!
Below is a repost of the article which I found from Camster of Kayo’s – thank you for your findings:
The decision to cohabit with my now ex-boyfriend Jeff was prompted by a fight over my period.
Jeff and I came back to my place after dinner to find my male roommate and some of his buddies sitting on the couch. He was angry because he just got laid off. He was drunk. In general he was a big a**hole.
I see a man’s reaction to my period as a litmus test. I know it sounds strange, but the way a guy acts about my menstrual cycle tells me a lot about what kind of guy he is and how he feels about womanhood.
“Wash your dishes,” my roommate shouted as I walked in the door.
“I haven’t been home,” I replied. “I will.”
I looked at Jeff, my incredibly shy boyfriend, hoping he would stick up for me. He put his head down.
My roommate proceeded with his attack.
“And get your disgusting period stained underwear out of the laundry room,” he yelled.
I am never usually at a loss for words. But the mention of a pair of period stained underwear in front of a crowd of men really humiliated me. For the record, I had washed them and left them to dry in the laundry room. A room appropriate for such activities.
I felt my face get hot. That’s when Jeff sprung to action. I saw his jaw tense.
“Who the hell do you think you are?” Jeff shouted at my roommate. “She’s a woman, she bleeds, man!”
Jeff grabbed my hand.
“We’re leaving here now,” he said, escorting me out of the apartment.
I never heard Jeff raise his voice before and I never loved him more for doing it. It turned out my shy boyfriend had some throw-down factor when it came to his woman. That was all I needed to know. We decided to move in together that evening.
Since then, I’ve seen a man’s reaction to my period as a litmus test. I know it sounds strange, but the way a guy acts about my menstrual cycle tells me a lot about what kind of guy he is and how he feels about womanhood.
A few years ago, I was on my third date with David.* We were in the middle of brunch at a French Bistro when Aunt Flo came for a very unexpected visit.
“I have to run to the drug store,” I told him.
He looked confused, but didn’t ask any questions. When I returned with a box of tampons and went to the bathroom again, I think he solved the equation. But David didn’t say anything. He just pretended like it didn’t happen, which in turn made me feel slightly uncomfortable. I know we didn’t know each other that well, but a joke or a smile or at least an acknowledgement from him would have been much appreciated. It was a metaphor for the rest of our six-month relationship. David never really said much about what he thought about anything. So when I told him I was falling in love with him, I was surprised to discover that he wasn’t feeling the same way.
Recently, I started dating Dan* who invited me to spend the night at his place.
“I want to spend the night, but I have my period,” I told Dan.
“That’s great news!” he exclaimed.
“Really? Why?” I asked slightly thrown off by his reaction. I had never seen a man so excited that I was bleeding.
“It’s always a relief for a guy to hear that,” he said. “No bun in the oven.”
In the middle of the night, I woke up and discovered a blood stain on his white sheets. I was mortified. I woke him up.
“Something bad happened,” I said.
“Are you OK?” he asked. I pointed to the blood stain.
“Do you have a stain stick or some Oxyclean?” I asked panicked.
“Don’t worry about that. It’s not a big deal. We’ll deal with it in the morning.”
Dan* reached his arms out and wrapped them around me. He kissed me on the cheek.
“Now go back to sleep and stop worrying,” he said.
Good man, I thought as I drifted off.
*Name has been changed
Since the posting of the article, it has received quite a few comments. You can navigate to see all the comments using the link above as part of the article, but here are some that I found particularly pleasing 🙂
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 1:32 PM
For growing up with a sister only 2 years older then him, my boyfriend seemed completely clueless about periods when we started living together (I was the first girl he ever lived with). But now he has gotten completely over his initial squeamishness with it to be totally over it. One of the most amazing things I ever saw him do was empty the trash can that had used pads in it. I immediately panicked when he picked it up and ran over saying “I’ll take care of it” and he just shrugged at me and said “It’s ok, they are wrapped, it doesn’t bother me.” That moment for some reason just completely floored me. I also leave a tampon in the glove box of HIS car. At first he protested, but now it’s like it’s not even there among his tools and insurance papers.
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 5:02 PM
I was going to the store once and asked my partner if he wanted anything and he decided to come with me. When we got inside I said something like “Well you can go get your stuff, I have some other stuff to get” and he just looked at me like I was crazy “I don’t care if you need to get pads. They’re ~right here~ on the way to my ice cream. Just grab them now.”
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 2:27 PM
I think it’s a better indicator if the guy is willing to get sexy when it’s that time of the month. If he isn’t overly squicked by that, hoorah!
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 6:34 PM
Thank god I’m with someone who doesn’t give a flying f*ck. I get horrific cramps the first 2 days and a good orgasm makes them better for hours afterward.
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 2:36 PM
I logged in just to say, Hydrogen Peroxide. It will get ANY blood stain out in a jiffy. We are talking the relatively minor period stained sheets to the dead deer in the back of the light colored SUV. (It hit my car and we try not to waste food.) Even guys usually have some H2O2 in the bathroom.
Also, any guy who freaks out about my period does not get access to my various lady parts because he obviously doesn’t deserve it.
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 2:51 PM
I think it depends. My husband was an only child and I think unless you’ve shared a bathroom with a woman, it’s pretty easy to be freaked out by periods. He’s getting better though the longer we live together.
wrote on April 28, 2011 @ 3:31 PM
One of my past boyfriends was completely grossed out at the thought of bleeding vagina. I was so annoyed with him, because I’m ALWAYS horny during my period, and he didn’t want anything to do with that part of my body. At all.
My husband was completely okay with it. (Granted, he was married before me, so he was use to it anyway,) but he wasn’t scared. Doesn’t care if the shopping cart has feminine products in it, none of that stuff.
On a somewhat related note, I laughed when my husband (then boyfriend,) and I went camping for the first time. We stopped at the grocery store before going out of town to pick up food, and he made a point of buying toilet paper for me to use. (I was trained to squat and use ferns to wipe if I wanted to wipe. lol) I thought it was sweet that he was looking out for me, and I knew I should probably keep him around, but I couldn’t help but laugh.
Now if only bebe appreciated my interest and loving-care for her on/off her period, then I’d be set for life! 😆