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Hong Kong Quickly Approaching

I can’t believe it… just a bit over 3 weeks and I’ll be escaping the start of Canadian winter. Of course, I’ll also be back smack in-the-middle of it too! I booked my tickets during the summer holidays and can’t believe it has dawned on me already. I was out at Mississauga yesterday with one of my best girl-friend, hit up some shopping, talked for hours, got some bubble tea and lazied around her house. She was all excited about me going on vacation to Hong Kong again and said that it’s just around the corner and I was like, “No way, it’s still months away” and she’s like, “Uhh.. it’s less than a month silly!” Just moments ago I remember it being the start of the school-year and working my ass off and time has flown by just like this. She gave me a small list of things to get her because she won’t be coming back with me for another good 3 years when she has her finances better-settled and have vacation days available. Given that I didn’t even know departure date is coming so quickly, I still have to write down my things-to-pack, particularly getting my laptop travel-ready and my unlocked Blackberry so I can stick a HK-SIM in as soon as I arrive. I have a feeling I won’t be getting a data-plan this time, which means no emails outside of a WiFi zone… which Hong Kong is saturated with as it is anyways.

My friend’s boyfriend went to a stag party, so she ended up staying quite a bit with me and pretty much chatting my ear off. Slowly it was approaching dinner time and I think she began to get tired and she ended up falling asleep on me. I didn’t want to move and wake her up and it just didn’t feel natural for me to have a girl other than bebe lie next to me. I mean, I’ve known this girl for 25 of my 25 year life, we’ve done almost everything together and there are almost ‘no barriers’ between us… but yet, I can’t stand having another girl lie on me anymore. I felt so shy, so ashamed and perhaps even slightly uncomfortable. I know in my heart that I’m not cheating on bebe because my best friend got too tired and nodded off, but it just didn’t feel right. I tried to fall asleep myself since there’s no point of me staring blankly at the walls, but I just couldn’t because the girl who’s curled up by me isn’t her. After an hour of doing nothing and trying not to breathe too hard, she finally woke up and we went out for dinner then called it a night. She did get me a pack of chocolate which I ashamedly admit I’ve finished already, LOL… just can’t say no to Godiva 😆

I will be gone for a good 34 days and although that’s a month and a bit more, it’ll fly by just-like-that, it does every time. I haven’t even arranged where I’m going to stay yet, although I do hope that the place we rent out is vacant so I can stay at it again and have a place to myself… or stay at my cousin’s place which is nice too 😀 I don’t know how often I’ll update this blog from December-January, although I don’t want to see it die or people become disinterested. I’ll definitely try to keep content active, although not sure how often period related, and I might even get the liberty to take pictures and add information about all the cool pads and tampons found in HK!

Just to think that a month after I return from my vacation, bebe will be returning to Canada too. It has been so many months and she has yet to say a word on me on MSN. I’m amazed at women’s ability to override their own conscience … or perhaps 良心 better described in Chinese. It’s like they can push their own thoughts and feelings away somehow and have total disregard for it. Does she think about me? Does she care about how I feel? Does she know she’s hurting me? How can she go about knowing she’s hurting me? … and more importantly, I just want to feel secure in knowing that when she returns to Canada, we can start a new life together. I can forgive everything she’s done to me because really, the past doesn’t matter. All I care about is the future, the future which her and I will share together, for better or worse. It’s 6 months she’s had practicality no contact with me, maybe a bit of time for her to grow, be with her family and friends, but I’m not an obstruction, I’m not here to remove freedom from her, but I want to be the guy who brings her happiness, stability, comfort and security. She sees me as some kind of hindrance as if I will prevent her from spending time with her family or consume her life. I think it’s a terrible way to see a relationship, I just wish she’d be more realistic about what relationships REALLY are about, it isn’t a matter of spending every living moment together and losing independence.

I guess Hong Kong will give me away to perhaps lift my mind from bebe, even for a bit. Instead of being 13,000 KM’s away from her, I’ll only be 2,500… damn that’s close! Hell, I’ll even be in the same time zone as her and if anything, my heart will feel that-much closer to hers. When she’s sleeping, I’m sleeping and knowing that I’m dreaming of her and that she’s always on my mind.

I can’t wait to take some amazing pictures with my new camera. It seems like every time I go to Hong Kong, I take certain pictures always from the same angle or even the same scenery, but there are some shots that are worth getting repeats of and mainly because unlike Canada, the rate at which landscape changes in HK is maddening. From what I’ve read, Hong Kong has already had (since 2 years ago), added a plethora of new subway stops and has extended their subway lines to “suburban” areas already. Where our family resides, there’s a brand new subway, train, taxi and bus station in-service, so the pictures that I took last time standing from the same spot and facing the same way probably has considerably changed.

I’ll try to squeeze one more period-post in before I leave, but I really don’t know which topic to choose since I have written down so many to talk about 😀

The Righteous Brothers – Unchained Melody

Oh, my love
my darling
I’ve hungered for your touch
a long lonely time
and time goes by so slowly
and time can do so much
are you still mine?
I need your love
I need your love
Godspeed your love to me

Lonely rivers flow to the sea,
to the sea
to the open arms of the sea
lonely rivers sigh ‘wait for me, wait for me’
I’ll be coming home wait for me

Oh, my love
my darling
I’ve hungered for your touch
a long lonely time
and time goes by so slowly
and time can do so much
are you still mine?
I need your love
I need your love
Godspeed your love to me

Want Privacy? Don’t fly!

In reference to Body Scans, Disability, Menstruation, and Security Theatre January 5th, 2010 by Elizabeth Kissling @ http://menstruationresearch.org/2010/01/05/body-scans-disability-menstruation-and-security-theatre/

When I read the above article, I was shocked at how much a scan like that actually shows. It makes me edgey to imagine myself as a male, walking through a scanner which shows (according to their rules, a same-sex officer) another individual my full body layout, including my penis “hanging around” while doing a security check. I find that distrubing, in fact, I’d hate to be the guy sitting behind the scanner seeing penises all day (unless that was his thing). I would actually prefer it was a opposite sex viewing these walkthroughs. While they have the best of intentions, not allowing images to be saved, making sure that the viewing-officer never sees the person on the outside and that due encryption be used when transmitting such an image, would you want to be the one questioned as you’re walking through the scanner whether you are menstruating and to prove it? In the event she’s not menstruating at the moment does not mean she cannot have the pad on, such as preparing for her flow to begin or at the end of her period just-in-case. Imagine a male, for whatever reason (other than malicious intent) having a pad on… what business is it of security officials to see and perform questioning. What if that is the person’s fetish or medical needs? Just to fly, do we really have to justify our own personal lives nowadays?

Having seen a tampon string hanging out of a girl, I can only imagine that to a scanner, it would very much resemble a wick of a dynamite for instance. Personally, I’d probably get a kick out of asking a girl, “So… are you on your period?” – but that’s just me and my interests and all… I’m sure the average person would hate to have to be the one to say that. I love flying, I really do… especially when it’s a trip to go home. I just can’t imagine the implications of this all, especially for those who might have more private concerns of themselves showing up nude in a scanner. I’m not sure about the pat-down process since I’ve never had an issue with going through security checks. I have triggered the metal detectors a few times with my belt (and before shoes had to be removed), my shoes… but never had to be “felt up” by an officer – so I guess I can’t relate to an experience like that.

I don’t think I’m taking sides on whether a scanner like this is right or wrong – it obviously has its merits. There have been many individuals who’ve expressed that “As long as doing something like this is for our safety, we don’t care about privacy.” It’s too bad the world has to come to this just to keep its citizens safe… soon we’ll be scanned just to exit the door of our house. Crime can exist anywhere and an airplane is just one of them. For the time being, I’ve just accepted the way security checks are, I think I take on the attitude of “I don’t really care.” and “There’s nothing that I can do to change it”… after all, I like visiting home! Nevertheless, this was a great article to read and addresses concerns that many in the LGBTQ and disabled folks might have when it comes to having their bodies revealed.

Just for kicks, the next time I’m walking through one of these scanners, I’m going to try to walk through it while maintaining a large erection… whoever’s behind that scanner, ENJOY!

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